MEMORIAL SERVICES

Personalized Memorial Service Options

Saying goodbye to a loved one is never easy, and this is something we understand deeply. At Wagner-Elfner-Burg Funeral Home & Cremation Services, our goal is to ensure you have the best possible experience and that your family is able to say a meaningful farewell.

We believe it’s important for you to understand the affordable memorial services available in York County, which is why we’ve created this reference page—to inform you and help guide your decision.

What is a Memorial Service?

Unlike a traditional funeral, a memorial service in York County does not include a casket, though an urn with cremated remains may be present. These services can take place weeks or even months after a death, following cremation or burial.


Memorial services may be held in a church, at the funeral home, or at a local venue such as Fireside at the Fiddlers in Brogue or Wyndridge Farms in Dallastown, as well as any location meaningful to the family. They often include music, readings, and a eulogy, and can easily be personalized as a celebration of life.



Many families today seek something beyond a traditional service by incorporating the personality, interests, and lifestyle of their loved one. Through photographs, meaningful details, or favorite pastimes, a memorial service can become a more personal and heartfelt tribute.

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Memorial Service Options

If a personalized memorial service feels right for your family, you may find it helpful to reflect on a few key questions:



  • What activities or hobbies did your loved one enjoy most?
  • What moments or things brought them the greatest happiness?
  • How would you describe them as a person?
  • What were their favorite ways to spend free time?
  • What was their career, and how did it influence their life?
  • Did faith or church play a role in their life?
  • Were they proud of their cultural or ethnic background?


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Deciding on a Memorial Service or Gathering


One of the primary reasons families choose a memorial service is the flexibility it offers. Because a memorial service takes place after burial or cremation, there is no immediate pressure to arrange a ceremony during an emotionally overwhelming time. Grief often makes it difficult to plan meaningful events right away, and a memorial service allows families the space and time they need to reflect, heal, and plan thoughtfully.


This additional time also makes it easier for relatives and friends who live out of town to adjust their schedules and attend. For many families, that opportunity for broader participation is invaluable.


Memorial services are often chosen by individuals who are not affiliated with a religious tradition, as traditional funerals are frequently rooted in religious customs. In addition, memorial services are typically more affordable than traditional funerals, making them a practical option for many families.


For some, a memorial service strikes the right balance—more structured and reflective than a celebration of life alone, yet less formal than a traditional funeral. While celebrations of life can be meaningful, some families feel they do not always provide enough focus on honoring the individual who has passed.


Why Choose a Memorial Service in York County?


Many families in York County are moving away from long-standing traditions and choosing services that more personally reflect the life of their loved one. This shift is often attributed to changing values, particularly among the Baby Boomer generation.


According to the National Funeral Directors Association, Baby Boomers view funerals as an important part of the grieving process, but they want services that feel more personal and meaningful than those of past generations. They seek ceremonies that reflect individuality, values, and shared memories.


If your goal is to honor your loved one in a way that feels heartfelt and authentic, a memorial service or celebration of life can be a meaningful foundation.


Can a Memorial Service Be Held at a Cemetery?


Yes. A memorial service is held without the body present and takes place after cremation or burial. Cremation may occur at our private, local crematory, or burial may take place prior to the service.


A graveside memorial service is one option and can be held at the burial site or near a mausoleum where cremated remains will be placed. This type of service may follow a traditional funeral held elsewhere, or it can stand alone as the final opportunity for remembrance and reflection.


Ready to Learn More About Memorial Services?


No matter your reasons for choosing cremation or burial, our team is here to guide you through every option available. When you’re ready, we invite you to contact us to schedule an appointment, visit our office, or reach out through our online contact form. We are here to help when you need us.


Celebration of Life vs. Traditional Funeral: What’s the Difference?


A traditional funeral typically includes four key elements:


  • A viewing or visitation
  • A formal service or gathering
  • A committal service
  • A reception or meal following the service

Together, these events create a structured process that helps families and communities acknowledge loss, support one another, and begin healing. Funeral ceremonies often rely on shared rituals and symbols to communicate meaning beyond words.


Grief experts note that meaningful ceremonies often include:

  • Symbols that convey shared meaning
  • Group rituals and participation
  • Comfort through presence and connection
  • Readings tied to tradition or heritage
  • Physical expressions of support
  • Witnessing burial or cremation as part of closure

Understanding these elements allows families to design a celebration of life that reflects these same comforting qualities—while remaining as unique as the person being honored.


How to Plan a Meaningful Celebration of Life


Planning a celebration of life begins with thoughtful conversation. Gather close family members and take time—sometimes over several discussions—to explore ideas by considering the following questions:


  1. Who should be invited?
    The guest list helps determine the location, timing, and overall format of the event.
  2. When and where should it be held?
    Consider accessibility, travel needs, and availability of out-of-town guests before finalizing details.
  3. Who will lead the service?
    Some families choose a clergy member, while others prefer a non-denominational celebrant.
  4. Who would like to speak?
    Select individuals who shared a meaningful connection and are comfortable speaking publicly.
  5. What activities would reflect your loved one’s life?
    Activities may include sharing stories, music, memory-sharing, or other personal touches.
  6. What food and beverages will be offered?
    Menus may reflect favorite foods, cultural traditions, or even a potluck style gathering.
  7. What music or readings should be included?
    Music, poetry, scripture, or literature can powerfully express emotion and remembrance.
  8. Which stories or memories should be shared?
    Focus on moments that reveal character, values, and personality rather than a full biography.
  9. How will the space be decorated?
    Tribute videos, photo displays, or memory tables are common ways to personalize the setting.


Let Us Help You Create a Celebration of Life


We understand how overwhelming planning can feel. Take your time, explore your options, and know that support is always available.

With our experience and guidance, we can help make the planning process smoother and less stressful. Reach out to us anytime—we’d be honored to listen, learn about your loved one, and help create a celebration of life that truly reflects who they were.